When we think of mindfulness, we often think of an activity done to benefit ourselves. It’s about finding your serenity. Bringing yourself peace. That being said, mindfulness is incredibly important when interacting with another person – and especially when you are flirting.
First, what is mindfulness? Mindfulness is when you take a moment to breathe. To pause To consider what is happening around you. So often in life we just react – react – react based on the way we’ve been trained by parents or guardians or whoever is around us. We don’t even think about why we do the things we do. We just do them.
Instead, take a moment. It’s why so many people talk about “counting to ten”. It’s not a cliche. It really gives your mind a chance to consider. What did the person say – and WHY did they way it? Sure, the words meant XXX but if you think about it what they really mean is YYY. They’re just not expressing themselves well. Probably because they, too, are caught up in the situation of speaking before thinking.
Think, too, about the things you are going to say. Often if you blurt out something you don’t convey what you meant to convey. The other person can misinterpret what you said to mean the polar opposite. Think about the words you choose. You don’t need to be a poet! You just need to be clear. Do you really hate your parents / ex / sister / etc.? Or is it that you’re frustrated by something in particular and could really use some help?
Mindfulness reminds us that life is short. What we think is so incredibly important in this moment will soon be wildly unimportant. We can burn countless months of our lives obsessed about something which, all to soon, doesn’t matter at all. It can let us connect with what really matters – which then helps us to reach our dreams.
Mindfulness. It can change a life. Give it a try. It might change yours.
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